The dramatic twist to the murder of seven years old Pradhuman Thakur of Ryan International School in Gurugram on September 8 by the CBI will surely send shivers down anyone’s spine, first that the crime was committed by a 16-year-old student of the same school who wanted the upcoming exams to be postponed. Secondly, it has once again exposed how the Police department - Haryana Police implicates an innocent school bus conductor as the killer.
One can easily comprehend the standard of the education institutions, where the weapon for the crime, a knife could be easily carried into the school premises, and that too in broad daylight to commit the crime not as a gang-war which many say was the movie but just to postpone an examination!
In the past the students do pray for disaster to strike or the death of a school authority or politicians for holiday, yet after that they do feel guilty for such thoughts. This time the 16 year old student of the same school took the life of a 7 years old boy and continued to dodge from the investigating officials without fear.
In most cases, the career oriented parents, so also the business community, who failed to provide family time, simply sent their kids to expensive schools, provide hefty amounts of pocket money, besides providing the latest gadgets. Above this is a dedicated vehicle for dropping and picking up from school, whereas, moral and ethics are evaporating fast.
It is the parents who now question the school authorities as why the punishment is meted out to their wards for not performing. Above that adding to the already disjointed communities, widespread competition and the drive for careers has turned everyone into an introvert. In the course of this, human emotion has been replaced by materialism, forcing the younger generation to fend for themselves in an emotionless age.
Youth is considered as the prime time of life and the younger generation is the actual strength of the nation and the support system for the elders in the family. The arduous quest for career, personal growth or discovering self potential makes this phase of life both memorable and risky when it comes to self-formation.
In the past, the traditional joint family structure helps the individual to focus on career; some even from day one on this earth, but the present day competitive, career conscious society has forced the youth to grow up faster, and all alone. The competitive world has forced the parents to strive harder in order to provide a sustainable life style of showmanship and in the course of this the children are left to the company of gadgets, hefty sums of pocket money as compensation for parenting time. As such, the youth have lost touch with human emotions and feelings. Being glued to social networking has motivated the youth to achieve whatever they find glamorous in the superficial world.
Oblivious about the ground realities and having no family members to discuss matters with, it is most common for the youth to slip into depression. The youth undergoing stress is not because they have too much to achieve, it is because they are too lonely having no trusted individual to solve their anxiety regarding studies, career and personnel emotions. According to the experts, it is especially problematic to establish the limits of depressive disorder in young people because of the cognitive and physical changes that take place during this time. Adolescents tend to feel things particularly deeply and marked mood swings are common during the teens. It can be difficult to distinguish these intense emotional reactions from depressive disorders. By contrast, young adolescents do not find it easy to describe how they are feeling and often confuse emotions such as anger and sadness. They have particular difficulty describing certain of the key cognitive symptoms of depression, such as hopelessness and self-denigration.
A few factors that might lead to stress for youths are lack of competitive zeal, unable to match the expectations of peers, family members or society, lack of fighting spirit once short-cuts and a compromising nature fails and self-adoration which is yet another factor which leads to depression once the individual failed to impress others.
Although it is difficult to pinpoint the factors leading to such depression as it varies from individual to individual, however there are a range of effective treatments, psychological and antidepressants. Where some just require brief intervention, others may require more intensive and lengthy forms of treatment, but more than any medication, counselling and family support is said to be most effective.
The traditional practice of at least having a joint family meal once a week and talk over the week’s events will help in bringing back human emotions. One need to stop being groomed into what the world want, but to perfect oneself along the lines of what one is capable of will be less stressful. It is time to restore our traditional lifestyle, conform to the social fabric and not a global superficial outlook to tackle depression. It is time for people to remind themselves that humans are social and not loners by nature.
When it comes to the Police investigation, it have been in practice that when any file is not moving, or the investigation is not getting any headway, they simply implicate and this time the poor bus conductor were made the scape-goat, only to ease the pressure from various quarters, particularly the political circle.
Such circumstances have shaken the very foundation of sanctity of educational institution and assurance of the police department. It is high time for everyone to restore the institution of society structural essence of ethics and morals.